How to be pleased with Allah (Part 1) – Sunday, 3rd June 2012
The Prophet Muhammad (Salla-Allaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) said: “Verily the greater reward is with the greater trial . Verily when Allaah the Most High loves a people He tests them. Therefore, whoever is pleased, then he will have the pleasure (of Allaah), and whoever is angry, then for him is the anger (of Allaah).“ [Graded Hasan (good) by At-Tirmidhî]
Let us first find what causes the displeasure with Allah.
1- Hawaa (Desire)
You like certain situations, matters, etc you wish for something, and you will plan for it, then when the Qadar of Allah comes contrary to what you wished, either you will be pleased or not pleased. When you are pleased this is a good indication. But most of the time we are angry. This anger is and indication of displeasure.
Allah the All-Wise, the All-Knower of what is good for you, when you planned for yourself, He planned something else for you telling you that this is better for you. Then why are you angry and unhappy and not pleased?
The remedy: It is natural to wish, love and plan for yourself. As the Prophet (Salla Allaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) said: “Be keen on what benefits you. Take the means, and seek help from Allah. And do not lose heart, and if something happens contrary to what you wish do not say IF. Say “Qadar Allah wa masha’ fa’al.”When you say this, this indicates that you are accepting Allah’s Qadar. This will calm you down, because the Shaytaan is there waiting for you.
Allah has mentioned in the Qur’an the difference between the hypocrite and believer. The hypocrite when he wishes for something and gets it he will be pleased with Allah but if he doesn’t get it he will be angry. The believer no matter he gets what he wished or didn’t he will be pleased with Allah. Allah knows best and the choice of Allah is best and you don’t know what is good for yourself. Be sure that whatever Allah decrees is the best for you.
Forgetfulness is one of the characters of humans. But the kind of forgetfulness we mean here is forgetting the favours and blessings of Allah. This makes us displeased with Allah’s Decree.
We all have memory; We should take the advantage of it to keep good memory of our Lord. Whenever Allah relieved you from anyway calamity, keep this good memory in your mind, that Allah relieved you, cured you, granted you, etc. Keep this good memory of your Lord always. We always forget the reliefs and the actions of Allah from the Shaytaan or ourselves. Keep good memory of Allah. Tell yourself, Allah who relieved me before I’m sure He will relieve me. To that extent you should be SURE . But we forget, because we do not keep good memory about our lord.
Forgetting the reliefs of Al-Jabbar is considered Minor Kufr, Ungratefulness to Allah. This is considered ungratefulness, because you are forgetting Allah’s favours, as if u have never been relieved before.
Allah ordered us in Surat ad-Duhaa Verse 11:
“But as for the favor of your Lord, report [it].”
Allah is commanding us to talk about His favours and gifts and mercy. Talk about it to the people and everyone and to yourself first. Remind yourself of how Allah relieved you, cured you, gave you. You were ignorant and Allah made you knowledgeable, you were humiliated and Allah honoured you. Don’t forget the actions of Allah, and All of Allah’s actions are good.
If you sit with yourself and remember the abundant blessings of Allah upon you, and the most important blessing of Allah that you are in Aafiyah. You are in Aafiyah in your wealth and health, safe in your country. There are no sounds of bombs. You are secure in your house. We are healthy, enjoying it. We can eat whatever we want, whenever you want.
The great favour of Allah that he had made us Muslims, and Muslims from Ahl -us -Sunnah. That we are not from any deviated sect. This is a favour we have to thank Allah for. Whenever we see people worshiping idols, saints. We didn’t choose Islam for ourselves, Allah chose this for us .How much have we thanked Allah for this? We forget all these great blessings and remember the one thing we are missing.
It is not right to utter words such as they don’t deserve or deserve, who are we to judge upon the people that they deserve or don’t deserve. Allah knows best who deserves. We have to pray and explain the Qadar of Allah in a positive good way.
3- Magnifying the Missing Matter
You don’t have children, you don’t have money, you don’t have husband. You are missing a worldly matter. One of the characters of children of Adam is that they see whatever they miss as something very big forgetting the other blessings that they have.
What are the reasons behind magnifying that missing matter?
a) The surrounding – the community – the people.
For example, if my son or daughter is getting married and I’m holding a part for her and Qadar Allah the day of the party there was dust or rain, and the party was canceled. Its not a big deal. Who will make it a big deal? The people. “You didn’t make a Walimah, she’s your first daughter,” etc, etc. And they will make it like it is something very great, and you are making a great sin.
In fact this is not a big deal. Will not they be happy without this party?
Allah has given us abundant blessings which are innumerable. You cannot count the blessings of Allah. And then when Allah doesn’t give you a child, husband, and you miss one worldly thing you will think you are not living as a human being.
He gives us the blessings even without us asking, He is Al Manaan. He started giving us the blessings and after all that we are not happy with Him and are not pleased with his Qadar.
It’s a very important matter. What will not make us be pleased is magnifying what we missed. We are greedy, forgetting all the blessings we have and not appreciating what Allah gives us, and focus on that missing thing and it could be a worldly thing. As long as that missing thing is not in your religion then say to yourself ‘Alhamdulillah’. The worst thing is to be afflicted in your religion, more than calamity in your wealth. Say ‘Alhamdulillah’ Allah has protected your religion for you.
DON’T EXPECT BAD. Whatever the person is always afraid of it will happen. Think good and expect good from Allah. Third advice: Have strong memory. Whenever you go through a trial or calamity that Allah for sure will relieve me, remove this calamity as he did before with me. Keep good memory of Allah’s actions, remove from your memory the people – don’t say this doctor cured me, or so and so helped me. And have Tawakkul – put your trust in Allah.
Even if the people frighten you or make you scared of the future, maybe Fitnah will happen or the same calamity will happen to us, immediately you have to think good of Allah. Allah said in the Qur’an that if you ask the forgiveness of Allah for your sins and return to Allah in repentance he will deal with you with his mercy, such that even if any calamity happens and you are asking the forgiveness of Allah, you should be sure Allah will deal with you with his mercy. No fear will be in your heart about the future. The future is in Allah’s hands don’t be scared.