Feeling Delightful When Remembering Allah: Sunday 23rd Muharram 1436 (16th November 2014)
Ibn Qayyim said, “Feeling Lonely is one of the evil consequences of committing sins.”
Some people don’t feel delightful or joyful when remembering Allah etc.
When they finish the prayer their Tasbeeh is quick and they only give lip service to it.
We should feel tranquil when we remember Allah.
The Qur’an becomes the spring of your heart, when you know Allah by His names and attributes.
The heart that doesn’t see the impact of Allah’s kindness and mercy will never feel joy.
It is preferred for one to isolate himself for some time from the people and remember Allah’s mercy, kindness, beneficence etc.
Even when the true believer socializes with people, his heart is with Allah. They feel more joyful when they worship and remember Allah.
This is a healthy sign as this indicates that the person is reaching that state of devotion with Allah.
If a person feels more joy with people than when alone remembering Allah, then there is something wrong with her faith.
What can help one feel joyful and delightful with Allah?
1) You will feel Allah’s nearness when you sit down and reflect the impact of Allah’s wisdom, kindness, love, in your life.
2) Performing Acts of Worship.
As the person increases in voluntary acts of worship the closer to Allah she will be, as a result the joy and delight increases.
Allah said, “..My slave approaches Me with nothing more beloved to Me than what I have made obligatory upon him…”
This means we need to perfect our obligatory acts, because they are the most beloved acts to Allah.
“…and My slave keeps drawing nearer to Me with voluntary works until I love him. And when I love him, I am his hearing with which he hears, his sight with which he sees, his hand with which he seizes, and his foot with which he walks. If he asks me, I will surely give to him, and if he seeks refuge in Me, I will surely protect him”
(Fath al-Bari, 11.34041, hadith 6502)
The person will not see, hear, talk, take etc except except that which Allah loves. This person is loved by Allah and because he is increasing in good deeds and coming closer to Allah, the intimacy and feeling of delight will increase in his heart.
The more sins the person commits, the more distanced they get from Allah and the more sadness they feel.
3) Trying to feel happy when we remember Allah
When you remember Allah keep in mind the hadith narrated by Abu Huraira: The Prophet Salla Allahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said, “Allah says: ‘I am just as My slave thinks I am, (i.e. I am able to do for him what he thinks I can do for him) and I am with him if He remembers Me. If he remembers Me in himself, I too, remember him in Myself; and if he remembers Me in a group of people, I remember him in a group that is better than they; and if he comes one span nearer to Me, I go one cubit nearer to him; and if he comes one cubit nearer to Me, I go a distance of two outstretched arms nearer to him; and if he comes to Me walking, I go to him running.’ ”
[Sahih Al-Bukhari, Vol 9, Hadith No.502]
Your name is being mentioned in the heavens! If you truly believe this you will feel joyful in your heart.
Even if you didn’t speak, and just sat down and thought about how gracious and beneficent Allah has been to you, guided you and brought you out of the darkness of ignorance to the light of guidance. Allah will remember you in His noble self.
Don’t ever think that wealth or following your desires can bring happiness to the heart. The real delight is when you know Allah.
Also, don’t try to experiment. Don’t try and test this to see if it will happen. You need to be certain that Allah will give you the delight, that He can hear and see you.
The Salaf used to say, “If you want Allah to talk to you then recite the Qur’an, and if you want to talk to Allah then pray.”
These are all means of bringing joy to heart.
The Shaytan will not allow us to enjoy our seclusion. He will come and distract us, reminding us of our children, husband, duties, problems, etc in order that you don’t enjoy them. He reminds you of sad events, evil things, etc.
This is one of the goals of the Shaytan, loving to see you depressed and sad. Don’t give him this chance.
4) Oppose your evil self and desires.
In order to feel joy, try and oppose your desire.
There is an act of worship which many people don’t practice, which is called التبتل.
Surat Al-Muzzammil Verse 8
وَاذْكُرِ اسْمَ رَبِّكَ وَتَبَتَّلْ إِلَيْهِ تَبْتِيلًا
And remember the name of your Lord and devote yourself to Him with [complete] devotion.
It is to dedicate or completely devote oneself to worshiping Allah. Allah commands the Prophet and us with it.
How many of us seclude ourselves from the people in order to worship Allah alone for some time whether it’s once a day or once a week?
Allah freed many people from worldly occupations. For example, a woman may not be married or have children to occupy her. She doesn’t understand that Allah freed her to devote herself to Allah. Instead, she feels lonely and complains.
Surat ‘Āli `Imrān Verse 42
وَإِذْ قَالَتِ الْمَلَائِكَةُ يَا مَرْيَمُ إِنَّ اللَّهَ اصْطَفَاكِ وَطَهَّرَكِ وَاصْطَفَاكِ عَلَىٰ نِسَاءِ الْعَالَمِينَ
And [mention] when the angels said, “O Mary, indeed Allah has chosen you and purified you and chosen you above the women of the worlds.
The word اصْطَفَاكِ is mentioned twice,
The scholars said the first refers to her being devoted to Allah and the second refers to her being the mother of Jesus.
يَا مَرْيَمُ اقْنُتِي لِرَبِّكِ وَاسْجُدِي وَارْكَعِي مَعَ الرَّاكِعِينَ
O Mary, be devoutly obedient to your Lord and prostrate and bow with those who bow [in prayer].”
Allah chose Maryam for devoting herself in worshipping Allah. This is what she did.
In Surah Maryam, فانتبذت means to throw away something you don’t like. She felt this way when she stayed away from people. Her joy was in being alone in worshiping and remembering Allah.
‘Aishah radi Allahu ‘anha never asked the Prophet Salla Allahu ‘alaihi wa sallam to invoke Allah to give her children. When the Prophet Salla Allahu ‘alaihi wa sallam died, she was only 17 or 18 and she was teaching the companions. Allah chooses but many of us ignorantly act contrary to what he wants. Allah freed us and we occupy ourselves with other things. Our acts of worship will benefit us.
Whoever devotes herself to worshiping Allah, Allah will suffice her in all her worldly affairs.
When Maryam separated herself from her family and worshipped Allah, Zakariyah ‘alaihissalam entered upon her and found food with her. She didn’t tire herself, the provision came to her house.
You will not be able to devote yourself to Allah unless your belief in Him is strong, which is a result of having knowledge about Him.
Freeing yourself from worldly occupation helps you have delight in your heart when you’re with Allah.
Another reason it’s important to study the names and attributes of Allah: Immoralities are prevalent in society. There is weak adoption of high Islamic morals like modesty, pardoning, forgiveness, etc. This is because of weak belief. Morals are joined with Eeman.
Magnanimity was one of the characteristics of the Arabs in the past. They used to hasten towards helping the needy even if they didn’t know them.
No one helps people these days because otherwise they’ll be told they are being taken advantage of.
There are many morals joined with Eeman in the Qur’an and Sunnah:
Surah An-Nisa’ Verse 149
إِن تُبْدُوا خَيْرًا أَوْ تُخْفُوهُ أَوْ تَعْفُوا عَن سُوءٍ فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَفُوًّا قَدِيرًا
If [instead] you show [some] good or conceal it or pardon an offense – indeed, Allah is ever Pardoning and Competent.
Allah didn’t mention the recompense. He ended the verse with two names: عَفُوًّا ، قَدِيرًا
If you believe Allah is العفو and القدير, then you should forgive whomever offended you.
Allah decrees that someone offends you with words, actions, etc. and later they apologize to you, the Shaytan will whisper to you not to forgive them. The people who don’t forgive, don’t understand the meaning ofالعفو.
المغفرة is to overlook the sin and not punish it while العفوا is that Allah will remove the traces from that sin from your record, as if you didn’t commit that sin at all.
If there are no sins in the record the person will go to Paradise.
If you go through a trial where people offend you and don’t give you your rights, understand that Allah, out of his mercy, opens the gate of العفوا for you.
It is our pride that prevents us from pardoning people and attaining this great reward from Allah.
Abu Kabsha ‘Ameri reported that the Messenger of Allah said: “… and no man pardons an oppression seeking thereby the pleasure of Allah but Allah will increase his honor therewith on the Day of Resurrection.”
Every moral that we practice indicates our Eeman. Weak morality indicates weak faith.
If someone didn’t give you your rights and you pardoned them, Allah will give you your rights, increase your honor and enter you into Paradise.
The believers practice morals as an act of worship to Allah, not for gaining praise from the people.
Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “The most complete of the believers in faith, is the one with the best character. And the best of you are those who are best to their women.”
(At-Tirmidhi and authenticated by Al-Albani)
Your behaviour indicates your Eeman. Misbehavior indicates lack of belief.
“….Modesty is a branch of faith.” (Muslim)
Modesty prevents from disobedience to Allah. When you feel modest before Allah, you feel shy to commit sins or do any wrong while He is watching you.
Modesty keeps the society free from sins. It is one of the qualities of the women. But nowadays women are so bold especially when it comes to the dress code.
At home, many Muslim women barely wear anything. They wear very short dresses, sleeveless, tight clothes in front of their brothers, sisters, sons, etc.
The woman can show her mahrams and other women the places which she adorns like the neck, ears, wrists, ankles.
You can’t wear tight, short, transparent dresses.
Shaikh bin ‘Uthaymeen is of the opinion that trousers are حرام for women because:
1) It resembles men and Allah cursed women who resemble men
2) It shows the shape of the leg,
Many people are walking with long jeans and an open ‘abaya. You will bear the sin.
C) Backbiting, Lying, Gossiping
People abuse each other through electronic devices. This indicates lack of faith. Allah is watchful and will take account of our hands with which we type.
Before you send a message think whether it will be for or against you in your record.
D) Watching Haram things.
They may not do it in front of their own family but they may do it alone,
Surah An-Nisa’ Verse 108
يَسْتَخْفُونَ مِنَ النَّاسِ وَلَا يَسْتَخْفُونَ مِنَ اللَّهِ وَهُوَ مَعَهُمْ إِذْ يُبَيِّتُونَ مَا لَا يَرْضَىٰ مِنَ الْقَوْلِ ۚ وَكَانَ اللَّهُ بِمَا يَعْمَلُونَ مُحِيطًا
They conceal [their evil intentions and deeds] from the people, but they cannot conceal [them] from Allah , and He is with them [in His knowledge] when they spend the night in such as He does not accept of speech. And ever is Allah , of what they do, encompassing.
One of the descriptions of the hypocrites is that they show morals only when they are with people and when alone they lack morals .
They have lack of belief that Allah is watching what they are doing.
Weak morals indicate weak knowledge of Allah’s names and attributes. If we know Allah well we will show good morals whether we are alone at home or outside with the people. The believer doesn’t have two faces nor does he have two tongues.
Whoever knows that he is going back to Allah one day will never show arrogance or pride. He will be showing humility to Allah, because everything belongs to Him. We have to know the reality of ourselves and this life. We need to know who Allah is, for surely we will meet Him one day.
Belief in Allah and His names and attributes helps a person practice morality and be excellent in his behaviour.
Weak morality is due to weak knowledge.
Allah repeats, “O you who believe!“, 98 times in the Qur’an.
The Salaf said whenever you hear this, listen attentively, because whatever comes after it is either something good Allah wants us to follow or something evil He is warning us against.
Ibn ‘Uthaymen said, “Whenever you hear this Allah is calling you by your attribute of belief to whatever is coming after.”
Your belief requires you to act upon what is coming in that context.
If you do contrary to what comes after, “O you who believe”, it indicates the lack of faith you have.
Surat Al-Hujurat Verses 10-12:
إِنَّمَا الْمُؤْمِنُونَ إِخْوَةٌ فَأَصْلِحُوا بَيْنَ أَخَوَيْكُمْ ۚ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُرْحَمُونَ
The believers are but brothers, so make settlement between your brothers. And fear Allah that you may receive mercy.
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا يَسْخَرْ قَوْمٌ مِّن قَوْمٍ عَسَىٰ أَن يَكُونُوا خَيْرًا مِّنْهُمْ وَلَا نِسَاءٌ مِّن نِّسَاءٍ عَسَىٰ أَن يَكُنَّ خَيْرًا مِّنْهُنَّ ۖ وَلَا تَلْمِزُواأَنفُسَكُمْ وَلَا تَنَابَزُوا بِالْأَلْقَابِ ۖ بِئْسَ الِاسْمُ الْفُسُوقُ بَعْدَ الْإِيمَانِ ۚ وَمَن لَّمْ يَتُبْ فَأُولَٰئِكَ هُمُ الظَّالِمُونَ
O you who have believed, let not a people ridicule [another] people; perhaps they may be better than them; nor let women ridicule [other] women; perhaps they may be better than them. And do not insult one another and do not call each other by [offensive] nicknames. Wretched is the name of disobedience after [one’s] faith. And whoever does not repent – then it is those who are the wrongdoers.
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اجْتَنِبُوا كَثِيرًا مِّنَ الظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعْضَ الظَّنِّ إِثْمٌ ۖ وَلَا تَجَسَّسُوا وَلَا يَغْتَب بَّعْضُكُم بَعْضًا ۚ أَيُحِبُّ أَحَدُكُمْ أَن يَأْكُلَ لَحْمَ أَخِيهِ مَيْتًا فَكَرِهْتُمُوهُ ۚ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ تَوَّابٌ رَّحِيمٌ
As-Sa’di said, “Any believer, whether he is in the east or west, is your brother and has rights over you.”
This verse came in the context of two parties of believers fighting, in case of which you have to re-conciliate between them.
Even if they fight with you they are still your brothers and they have rights on you.
Allah is commanding us not to mock each other, to avoid suspicion, backbiting and spying, If you don’t avoid all this it means there is something wrong with your Eeman.
If you want to have good morals increase in faith.
If your sister wears indecent clothes, telling her this is shameful will not have the same effect as telling her that Allah is modest and loves modesty. Because this way you would have joined your advice with belief in Allah. This is what you should do with yourself and others.